An “egalitarian” is someone who, realizing that a scale is imbalanced because there are six pounds on one side and twelve on the other, seeks to correct the imbalance by adding six pounds to both sides.
well that was the best damn explanation I’ve seen.
Man I really fucking hate this. This is horrible. You can’t look at the two sides of a problem, like women’s rights vs. men’s rights, and reduce them to numbers. This is where metaphors fail, because they can never really represent the true situation. Instead of using a stupid metaphor to try to make your argument look like the right one, let’s actually really look at what’s happening.
Yes, there are many, many things in our society that hurt women, that are prejudiced against women, that are unfair for women, and that hurt women. But there are also things that negatively affect men, things that are distinct and different from the kinds of things that harm women, and both need to be fixed.
I am not a feminist. I am an egalitarian, because although I do believe that we should support all of the things that feminism supports, I don’t think we should do so at the expense of acknowledging men’s issues, and I think men’s issues should be addressed too.
Why can’t we just work to make everything fair? Why is that so hard?
And now, for everyone reblogging that post who said egalitarians aren’t like this, here’s a great example.
This whole “why not just be against everything that’s bad?” stance is impractical, broadens the scope to the point of uselessness, fails to address historical context or present power balances, ignores the scope and scale of problems, doesn’t even attempt to understand why any specific group’s problems exist (oppression or otherwise), and serves only to make the “egalitarian” feel above everyone else.
Your inaction is not revolutionary praxis. You have given yourself a false sense of superiority and a delusional feeling of having done something to change the world when you’re doing nothing and actively fighting against other people doing anything to change things. “Egalitarians” are nothing but especially smug fencewalkers.
So because I want to advocate for everyone’s rights, you automatically assume that I ignore historic context or scale of the specific problems I’m addressing/focusing on at the moment, or that I somehow can’t understand the problems at all?
And you assume, just because I call myself an egalitarian, that I’m inactive? First of all, that’s not true, I do lots of things to fight for what I believe in. And second, lots of people who call themselves feminists or some other “appropriately specific” group can be just as inactive, posting stuff on their tumblr or facebook wall and literally doing nothing else.
I totally support the majority of the causes that feminism fights for, I just don’t like their exclusion of men and men’s opinions, insights, and problems as well, because first, men are oppressed in some ways (certainly not as many but there are still some) and second because the official feminist organization believes in things that I do not: for example, if we (as women) want to have equal rights to men, shouldn’t we have equal responsibility? Feminists have fought against adding women to the draft, but if we really are equal to men, why should men be drafted and not women? I just hate feminism so much because it makes all men out to be evil, and making any statement about all men is wrong because there are lots of men in my life who are not at all like that, and they shouldn’t have to be punished for the oppression caused by other people who have nothing in common other than their gender. We can’t make up for the past oppression by tipping things in the oppressed’s favor, we should just wipe the slate clean, make everything equal for everyone, and move forward. Why does wanting that make me so evil?
I am an egalitarian because not only do I fight for women’s rights in the places where something is wrong, but I fight for men’s rights, too. Men are victims of rape, too. All victims of rape, regardless of their gender, deserve help and support. Why should we just focus on women? Let’s focus on everyone.